I was with you up until Diet Coke, which I prefer. 😉
Yeah, I get the arguments about porn's lack of reality, but I think it's like violent videogames in that it's escapist and clearly is not supposed to be reality. That idiots take it as reality and seek to replicate it is the fault of idiots, not the thing itself. I don't like most porn, especially the violent stuff with choking etc, but I'd defend it on the basis that the people involved are doing it voluntarily and that it isn't my place to define sensuality for others.
Anyway, if not feminist, then the philosophical/political anti- view, which you provided. 🙂