Sasheron wrote:
You DO have sexuality, that's the thing! The basic attitude about sex I've seen displayed in many places is that sex is an exchange, and in many cases women are the ones giving, and men are the ones taking. I think it's a mutual activity in which both partners participate equally and benefit from. I don't think that men simply sink their pencils into whoever attracts them and says yes.
I mean, there are lots of examples of that attitude. Not too long ago, on a different forum someone was telling a girl that she could just go to the bus stop and open her legs to get sex. Would anyone say that to a heterosexual male? No. I subsequently left that forum because of that crap. Similarly, think of expressions such as "loss of virginity" and the idea that women are worn out by sex. Since that wearing out process doesn't happen to men, women must have something men do not, presumably "sexuality". If women don't share, men can take that stuff by use of brute force.
Anyhoo, this is very complicated and feminist theories of rape are not my forte. In short, equating rape with lust is naive, and I think it's an attitude problem and not a problem that can be solved by means of law or patrol.
Is that the forum I'm thinking of right now?
