Metal Reviews

If you can't even be bothered to save up money to buy her something on her damn birthday, then you deserve to have her be mad at you. That is pretty much showing her that you don't think about her all that much.

Yeah, not buying gifts for loved ones on their birthdays whilst you're 'pissing money up the wall' never goes down well.

I should be going to Uni next year, I'm currently single and for the first time as a single chap I'm not looking for someone. I think the temptation to party and be promiscuous would be too much for me to worry about 'wifey' back home.

I reckon (you probably know this better than me) that you've probably missed out on some good times with potential girlfriends at Uni, but it says something about a character if you've resisted. Good on you if that's the way it's been

Practically, take a weekend off from the parties and use the money saved to buy and send her a prezzie. That or the most popular presents I've given are the ones I've made myself like a card with a poem in - in other words something that costs next to nothing (no excuses in other words!). Make her something, dude.

I took that option, and look at me now.

i wrote my gf a card for her birthday ._., some day i'll back it up with a present but i havent thought of anything yet

Yeah, Shasheron, she's a really nice girl and definitely someone I wouldn't wanna lose. We're actually looking at our relationship as a long term one. I'd be the happiest man on earth if things work out well and we're married. We have been planning things as well.

Metal_xxx, I wouldn't spend on a diamond ring for now cos we're still 23 and we have many years to go. I'd rather save the diamond ring for a special 'ocassion' in the near future.

And speaking of diamond rings and settling down, someone asked me a question that's been pricking me for quite sometime. A friend of mine, actually had the balls to ask me "Dude, she's in medicine school now, and she'll be a DOCTOR when she graduates. You are doing some media course, and GOD knows where you'll end up after you graduate. Even if it's a good job, can you compare yourself to her, a DOCTOR? Have you ever thought of the difference in both your professions?". This prick was hinting at our typical Asian classism. Doctors, lawyers and engineers are considered high classed professionals while the rest have their own categories, which are considered lower than the 3 professions mentioned. I never saw this as an obstacle but thanks to him, I do feel slightly heavy a bit. She's never said any of this would be a problem, but I do feel a bit disturbed by it. And to add further confusion, we come form 2 rivalling subraces. She's Indian Tamil while I'm Ceylonese Tamil. In my hometown, and my country (Malaysia), both races hate each other and are often at each others throats. Her family bitterly despises the Ceylonese a lot, but somehow they like me, and Gayethri (that's her ) has assured theres no problem with it. But you can never be sure of anything......

Ditto.

Whoa. Don't diss yourself man. I'm going to write the novel that will change the world and you don't see me getting all upperty!!!

Who care where you will end up as long as you had fun getting there?

If Media is your passion, keep filming dude - it will make sense.

Remember that you weren't born with an instruction book. Where does it say 'You can't marry, and have four kids with, a doctor '?

Your English is fantastic and you have sensitivity. Work on your strengths and you will succeed...

(If anybody saw my 2nd from last post in 'God sued over pestilence and terror' thread, you'll knlow where I'm coming from)

Well, a woman who doesn't care about racial and caste differences in a culture where it's pretty important has got to be awesome.

Methinks people should marry whomever they want to spend their life with. I'm going to marry 12 cats

I don't wanna read this! For once my love life is going fine >.<

But what I will say is just keep marching on. And stop smoking, it's bad for you, gf or no gf.

smoking weed reveals the secrets of the universe to you though

Seriously...it doesn't have to be a diamond ring. The best thing that you can do right now is show her that you are ready to change, i.e. do whatever she wants you to.

Lol, I come from an English speaking family over here. The worst part is, I don't even know how to communicate properly in my mother tongue, and all the Indians here are pissed with me cos of that.

I don't want to be perceived as heartless, but you don't have the right to complain. Everything that has happened is entirely your fault, you had control over everything and you simply screwed up. So shake up grow stronger, get responsible and learn how to mange your cash,
then If she gives you a second chance than good for you.

That is a bit heartless, but you're right. Cash management is something you learn damn quickly in the real world.

psh, you didnt have to learn it.

I didn't?! I shure did.

Seriously, set up a second no-touchy bank account, set it up to deduct a set sum from your main account weekly, or simply trow leftover cash at the end of the week into it, voila! Your scrap money adds up to a nice sum. Not that hard. Excuses are cheap, bullshit is free.

Ihad a no touchy bank account. I ended up touchin the whole lot for my bass.

At the moment I have some 3 grand in the bank. It's quite a lot bein a student. And I've always maintained it at least at 3k just in case of rainy days, plus a bass amp. But I think I have to consider using some of that lot for a prezzie. I guess 500 should do good? I think the amp can wait.

Relax mate. Plenty of good suggestions here. Since she said she would call you when she feels like talking, wait for it. If she does, good for you, if she doesn't, well, take it in your stride and move on. You definitely have learnt something from this incident. If things go bad, learn from the experience so that you can handle such things better next time. Work towards what you promised, like not smoking weed or whatever. You've got nothing to lose if you succeed. Focus on other things which you need to do so that your mind is off this. Damn difficult, but do your best. Hope things settle down soon. Stay metal

havent she called yet?