Metal Reviews

What do you do when you like a girl ALOT and there's not much you can do about it because you don't want to mess up any kind of relationship you already have. Im in a really sticky situation here, I'm afraid if I try anything I'll screw it all up...And I think she's being hooked up with some guy right now and theres not much I can do about it, so Im sitting here driving myself insane...any suggestions? Normally I wouldn't do this but I have to get it out somehow.

Hesitation = Regret.

You may not know her in 2 years. Go for it now, and know what is, instead of what could've been.

Is it a friend-type relationship you're worried about losing? Just tell her that you value your friendship and you don't want to lose that, but you also really like her alot, etc. etc. Then if she rejects that bit, back off and hopefully you two will be able to remain friends.

That's exactly the problem, Im just really afraid to lose everything we have right now, and Im kind of afraid to say anything. Because a negative reaction will hit hard.

It does suck, that's a nasty situation to be in. But if you think that this is your last chance, that her possibly hooking up with this other guy will obliterate any chance you have, and if this outweighs the possible loss of the friendship, you should go for it. Though you're right to be a little cautious; sometimes women don't deal well with knowing that their guy friends like them "that way." Obviously if you think she's going to get really weird about it, you should stay away. Otherwise, you have to trust her.

If you approach her don't let on that you REALLY like her, that'll make it awkward for her if she doesn't like you the same way. Just mention it in passing, something like, "You ever think we'd be a good couple?" Just an innocent inquiry, see what her reaction is, if it's good pursue it a little further, small steps. If she's not into it then pretend like it wasn't a big deal, you were just randomly thinking out loud.

Or you could get drunk with her and when you're both well drunk go, "LET'S FUCK!" She'll be like "Hells yeah!" if she's into you, if not she'll laugh about it. She'll think you're joking, but if she likes you her reaction will be positive and she'll play along with the joke that's not a joke, if not she'll just laugh at it as a simple, friendly joke. That what a stud like me calls "pimp trickery." It's like ghetto magic!

Although I like your idea, knowing I don't have a chance with her would suck, I dunno I've never really liked anyone this much before. I guess Ill just have to be a man and take some risks, after some more thought and consideration.

Damn, you were too quick for all my edits! Knowing you can't "get some" would suck, but not knowing would be worse. Once you know, if it's not what you wanted, you move on. Simple.

Yeah I know what you mean...its just that Im not the easiest person when it comes to moving on. Oh well, maybe with some more intense thought Ill figure something out.

I see you either have 2 choices

1.Find out if she feels the same way about you,follow the advice that has been given here so far

2.Don't do anything

The question is that are you going to act on your instincts or not.

The ball is in your court.

Ball...zuh. :roll: Balls.

This mite sound a bit crude, but just tell her how you feel and face the consequences. If she chooses to remain friends, then good. But, if she chooses never to speak to you again, well, bad luck. Considering that you have fallen in love with her, don't hide it. Be honest. Yeah, i had been in the same situation too. I fell in luv with some chick and told her. She was undecided, but later on, she fell for some other guy and starting treating me like dirt. Worst part is, i came to know thru someone else about why she was treating me that way. I have no regrets. Atleast i am not left regretting, "Shit if only i had told her, maybe it would've worked out." Go for it mate. All the best. But, if you feel saying how you feel would have a bad effect on her relationship with the other guy, i suggest you don't tell her how you feel. If you luv somebody, set them free, if they come back to you, they belong to you, if they don't, they were never yours. Damn ! I'm preaching again :roll:

Fortune favours the bold... You'll hate yourself in the long run if you repress these things... So don't!

Fortes fortuna adiuvat...

Everyone's basically saying what I said, but with more words, so I deserve the credit when this all pays off.

We'll discuss the billing process then.

Eyesore has the right idea. If you jump out and scream "I LOVE YOU! MAKE MY BABIES!" she will be spooked like a deer. And as we all know deer don't like to have that shouted at them...or am I the only one who knows that :? .
Anyway, subtle steps is advised, just little tests to see what sort of reaction you may get when you finally do have to come out with your proposal. A lingering hug here, a compliment there. If it's clear that she wants to just remain friends then you pretty much have your answer.
However, if you can't get a clear signal then you may have to do the brave thing and take her somewhere quiet. Sit her down and first tell her that she makes you comfortable enough to be completely honest with her, and that you are starting to have feelings beyond friendship. Let her know that it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way (although you would be very happy if she did), so you are not asking her out per-se. If she tells you "no" then how you handle it determines if your friendship survives. If you react negatively she will not feel guilty and take you in, rather she will feel that she has been unwillingly placed in this situation and feel badly towards you. On the other hand if you manage to stand tall and thank her for her honesty, and have a laugh about it afterward to defuse the situation (without placing any detriment on your feelings toward her; ie don't say that you feel like an idiot for liking her) she will respect you a lot more. And maybe even be flattered by your feelings for her (for her future consideration).
Anyway, good luck.

In case anyone was unclear, this is what we like to call a bad idea. :roll:

ah, everyone's recommending the sympathetic approach, so I'll present an alternate route if you're feeling adventurous: kidnap her and hide in a warehouse with her for a week. I guarantee that stockholm syndrome will work its sweet, seductive magic.

what? don't look at me like that.

A letter.... really, those things own!! just DON'T type it!