Sifl wrote:
Sir Wanksalot wrote:
Eyesore has the right idea. If you jump out and scream "I LOVE YOU! MAKE MY BABIES!" she will be spooked like a deer. And as we all know deer don't like to have that shouted at them...or am I the only one who knows that :? .
Anyway, subtle steps is advised, just little tests to see what sort of reaction you may get when you finally do have to come out with your proposal. A lingering hug here, a compliment there. If it's clear that she wants to just remain friends then you pretty much have your answer.
However, if you can't get a clear signal then you may have to do the brave thing and take her somewhere quiet. Sit her down and first tell her that she makes you comfortable enough to be completely honest with her, and that you are starting to have feelings beyond friendship. Let her know that it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way (although you would be very happy if she did), so you are not asking her out per-se. If she tells you "no" then how you handle it determines if your friendship survives. If you react negatively she will not feel guilty and take you in, rather she will feel that she has been unwillingly placed in this situation and feel badly towards you. On the other hand if you manage to stand tall and thank her for her honesty, and have a laugh about it afterward to defuse the situation (without placing any detriment on your feelings toward her; ie don't say that you feel like an idiot for liking her) she will respect you a lot more. And maybe even be flattered by your feelings for her (for her future consideration).
Anyway, good luck.
Well to answer this, I used to compliment the fuck out of her, I practically praise her...but Im so confused by her reaction, I dont know if its positive or negative. Nowadays I try to keep the compliments to a minimum to refrain from creeping her out. I also think she kind of has an idea I like her...more then likely she probably doesn't feel the same which for me is hard to deal with, but I don't know for sure yet the true situation, so I'm not willing to jump to conclusions yet, but I just feel a negative vibe for some reason yet Im uncertain of any of my thoughts....Its a pretty rough situation to say the least.
Ouch. Well, the negative reaction COULD be that she's afraid of you catching on to her feelings for you. Maybe she's sitting there thinking the exact same thing you are, and is afraid to screw up the friendship as well., thus fueling the tension. Just ask, tactfully, but ask. I know losing her friendship will hurt, but it won't hurt as bad as not knowing. Regret is a son of a bitch, and as a guy who has plenty of it, go for it. Break out of the shell of shyness. If she's really you're friend, she'll understand either way.
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